Painful experiences are always part of our lives. We all go through tough times and unimaginable circumstances, but that doesn’t mean that we have to carry that burden of pain throughout our lives. God has His own ways of designing lives for us, and all we can do is surrender to His will. All this is possible when we focus on healing our wounds. No matter how positive we think and act, it is essential to go deeper and seal those unhappy memories that keep disturbing our present.
The Bible teaches us that God doesn’t want his children to be imprisoned with painful memories and sinful acts. Instead, he wants us to find peace and joy in our lives, and this could only be possible when we heal completely from our past.
If you are lost in the process, here is the ultimate inner healing beginner guide that you have been longing for.
Invite the Holy Spirit In:
One of the foremost things to understand for anyone is to acknowledge that we can’t do this all alone. The true and essential healing comes from the God himself. Healing of the heart isn’t self-help; it’s Spirit-led. Jesus said in John 14:26,
“But the Helper, the Holy Spirit… will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you.”
The great aspect of healing is understanding that before beginning your journey, you need to invite the Holy Spirit to guide your thoughts, uncover hidden wounds, and bring clarity to your pain. He reveals what we’ve buried and gently leads us toward restoration.
Begin your time with prayer. Ask: “Holy Spirit, please reveal any wounds, lies, or painful memories that need your healing touch.”
Identify the Root Wounds
Emotional wounds are far scarier than physical ones. Much like weeds in a garden, wounds often lie beneath the surface. What we experience as anger, fear, or insecurity usually stems from deeper pain. It usually comes from rejection, betrayal, abandonment, or shame. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 20:5:
“The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”
It is clear that we have not been designed for pain and agony, and therefore, we need to address the question of where the pain begins. What memory still makes me wince or feel small? Recognizing these roots is the first step toward uprooting them.
According to spiritual healers, one of the best steps to identifying wounds is to start journaling. Write down memories as they arise. Don’t edit or rush record what comes to mind.
Bring the Pain into God’s Light:
As we mentioned earlier, it is important to bring them before the Lord. This step is more than just remembering; it’s about reliving with God, inviting Him into your pain, and asking for healing, hope, and peace from God alone.
Psalm 34:18 assures us,
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit.”
If you are a beginner in the process, look out for this. In prayer, picture Jesus with you in the painful memory. What is He doing? What is He saying? Many people report a sense of release or comfort during this prayerful process, often realizing that God was with them even when they felt alone.
Example: One woman, Anna, recalled feeling abandoned by her father. In prayer, she pictured Jesus sitting beside her in that childhood bedroom, whispering, “You are not forgotten.” That moment shifted decades of emotional isolation.
Forgiveness:
Not many people are entirely healed unless they turn toward forgiveness. That doesn’t mean excusing the wrong or pretending it didn’t hurt—it means releasing it to God.
In Colossians 3:13, we’re reminded:
“Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Sometimes, the hardest person to forgive is yourself. But healing demands that we release not only others but also our own shame, guilt, and regret. Without forgiveness, bitterness and unhealed personalities thrive. With forgiveness, the soul breathes again, and we begin to feel fresh, rejoiced, and, most importantly, free from pain.
Replace the Lies with God’s Truth
Wounds often plant lies in our hearts: “I’m unlovable,” “I’ll never be enough,” “I’m too broken.” These lies anchor pain in place until truth comes to tear them down.
Romans 12:2 calls us to
“be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Search the Bible for verses that speak directly to the lies you’ve believed. If you feel unworthy, meditate on your prayers and read the revelations to feel lifted and protected by Jesus.
Receive God’s Healing Love
Many people go through steps 1–5 and still feel “stuck” because they forget to receive. Healing is not only about letting go of pain—it’s about allowing God’s love to fill that space.
Isaiah 61:1 says,
“He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted… to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes.”
One of the most significant battles is the one that we fight within. It is essential to remember that healing and recovering from your past isn’t a one-time thing. Instead, it is about completing a continuous process. Even after a breakthrough, life will test those healed places. That’s why inner healing involves building new habits daily prayer, renewing your mind with scripture, and staying connected to a godly community.
